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2014年10月17日 星期五

婚姻是一場交易 Why more women choose not to marry

中央社新聞:女性不婚6大理由

美國女性不婚比例攀至新高,社會學者 Schwartz 分析女性選擇不婚有6大因素,嫁給沒用的老公只會讓生活更糟是主要原因。

近期1項民調顯示,18歲以上的美國女性有53%維持單身,再創歷史新高,女性對婚姻的渴望雖高於男性,但女性選擇遲婚或不婚有其社會因素。

華盛頓大學社會學教授 Pepper Schwartz 在 CNN 網站撰文指出,如果婚姻是樁好「交易」,自然會「成交」,婚姻不再是件好事,從女性觀點來看有6大因素。

第1,嫁給沒用的丈夫,生活只會更糟。貧窮女如遇上無錢男,只能相濡以沫,許多女性不嫁給令經濟情況更糟的男人不是秘密;單親媽媽即使依靠政府援助過活,也比嫁給無業不找工作的男人情況好得多。

第2,女性事業成就改變一切。成功女性無須成功男性在身邊加持,力爭上游的女性每天迎向挑戰,找丈夫最好先等等。

第3,女性不再禁錮於傳統角色。不想成為留在家中洗衣燒飯的女人,碰不上喜歡非傳統女性的男性,當然不會有婚姻。

第4,婚姻帶來稅務懲罰。薪資達中上程度的女性,如嫁給收入相當或較高的男性,稅率可能因丈夫把所得標準提高而更高,結婚反而造成女性生活成本增加。

第5,男人總是拈花惹草,何必自尋苦惱。

第6,女性挑挑撿撿,尋覓最佳伴侶,沒有速配,單身好過妥協出嫁委屈自己。男性也差不多,影星喬治克隆尼和許多女性往來,53歲才走入婚姻,就是等待心靈相配的現任妻子。

Schwartz 指出,社會學中的交易理論(Exchange Theory)聽來有點冷血,卻是不爭事實;人類行為奠基於付出與回報之間取得平衡,婚姻也不例外,財富、相貌與背景得相稱才是好「交易」,不過成功女人與在家寫作,順便看孩子的丈夫,或許是個不錯的組合。


Why more women choose not to marry

By Pepper Schwartz

Editor's note: Pepper Schwartz is professor of sociology at the University of Washington and the author of many books, the latest of which is "The Normal Bar." She is the love and relationship ambassador for AARP and writes the Naked Truth column for AARP.org. She is also a senior fellow at the Council on Contemporary Families, a nonprofit organization that gathers research on American families. The opinions in this commentary are solely those of the author.
(CNN) -- Some revolutions happen in a single day; others over decades. The rise of the voluntarily single woman has been happening in Western societies slowly, over time, concomitant with well-paying jobs, legal protection from economic or physical abuse, reliable birth control and the possibility of fulfilling careers and adventures.
Women are marrying at a later age these days, cohabiting with their partners or going in and out of short-term relationships without ever walking down the aisle.
Currently, 53% of women over 18 are in the singles column. Put another way, women now have choices that allow them to customize the arc of their lives and some of them find that it is best for them to put marriage aside.

Is this natural? Is this bad? Is this cause for alarm?
We have long counted on women's sacrifices and the compromises they've made to lift societies all over the world. We are worried that if women delay or forgo marriage, the all-important family unit will suffer.
As much as I admire happy couples and families, I think this may be one of the few times in history when so many women could choose from such a full range of life choices without penalty or stigma. Since few people "have it all," why not choose being single if that's the best option?

What it comes down to is people get married when it's a good deal. The question is why isn't marriage a good deal anymore? Here are some considerations.
1. A useless husband
If a woman is poor and only meets equally poor or poorer men, she's in a tough spot. It is no secret that many women do not choose to marry if the available partners will make their economic situation worse.
In some of these cases, even if a woman has a child, she may be better off with government help than a nonworking, noninvolved husband.
2. Success changes everything
When a woman is very privileged or highly successful, marriage could come very easily -- or not. Think of the likes of Elizabeth Taylor, who was married eight times. Or Oprah Winfrey, who for personal or professional reasons, is not married.
Moreover, a woman doesn't need a husband who is a high-powered corporate attorney if she is a high-powered corporate attorney. Taking advantage of economic and professional opportunities could be undermined by committing to a partner with an equally ambitious, or different, life agenda. This kind of woman may wake up every day to new and exciting challenges and think, "best to wait."
3. Unwilling to make traditional compromises
A woman who doesn't want to settle for cooking and cleaning and being the primary parent that society prefers. She is not meeting guys who want the kind of woman she is.
4. The marriage penalty tax
Some women are in an income bracket where marriage inflicts economic costs. She would have to pay more taxes if she marries someone who earns approximately what she makes or more.
5. Avoiding cheating men
A few years ago when I was in China, I had a conversation with some very beautiful female Chinese TV personalities about their personal life. I asked them why they were single and if they wanted to get married.
The three women all said they didn't want to marry because "the men of our class will all expect to have mistresses, and it is better not to marry than have to put up with that." I have no idea if this was an exaggeration or not -- but they believed it.
6. Waiting for the "one"
These women wait for the perfect guy, or the guy who they would fall in love with and love them back just as much. If that man doesn't come along, they prefer to go alone. As women get pickier, more factors enter into the marriage equation.
They may find someone who doesn't quite go the distance even after years of dating. They cohabit with someone and it doesn't work out. Singlehood, never intentional, becomes a fact. But they will not marry just to marry as their mothers or grandmothers might have.

In social psychology, there is a classic theory called "exchange theory." It is a bit cold-blooded, but it predicts that a person's actions will be based on trying to find a balance of give and get. Each person's resources -- of all kinds, including money, looks, background -- are traded back and forth for a "good deal." For example, a "good deal" scenario could be a woman who makes an excellent living pairing up with a man who is a writer and is willing to work at home and be the primary child care person.
When women's life choices were highly constrained, they had little negotiating power. They had to marry or were seen as damaged. A few got away with being "free spirits" but usually they were exceptional in wealth or lineage -- and even so, it wasn't easy.
It's different now. While most women still want marriage, they don't want it at just any price. They don't want it if it scuttles their dreams. Marriage is not dead -- not by a long shot. It is still, to most of us, the house we wish to build for our love, our lover and our children.
But women want to craft a life instead of having it pressed upon them. And that means some of us will be single for a long time, and some of us will be single for life.  (http://edition.cnn.com/2014/10/15/opinion/schwartz-single-women/index.html)

2014年7月9日 星期三

捨本逐末

這篇是由生活於現今社會與看到的網路現況有感而發的網誌,
「捨本逐末」就這四個字的成語,是我對社會與網路的感想。
有太多捨本逐末的人與事了,就像我查到的資料所寫的:
捨本逐末模式是指在一個系統性的複雜問題中存在多個解。最明顯的解往往也是最表面的解,潛在問題常要等到癥狀明顯時才引起註意,但這正是難處,因為問題的根源常是隱晦不明。或者即使發現了,大家也因為需要付出極高的代價去剋服,而避重就輕,採用一些善意的、簡便的、立即見效的解決辦法。不幸較為容易的“解”經常只能改善癥狀,並不能改變潛在的問題。更有甚者,潛在的問題不但未曾解決,反而更為惡化,但因為癥狀已經暫時消除了,問題便不再引人注意,使系統因而喪失解決潛在問題的能力。

例如,隨著企業的規模增長,原來不曾出現過的問題浮現出來,而人們往往看到的只是癥狀,對病根缺乏直觀感受。採取的措施無非是緩解癥狀之舉,暫時解除了壓力,但不久問題再度出現,再度重覆前面“行之有效”的舉措,最後自己給自己釀造出無法下咽的苦酒。最明顯的例子,如以喝酒來暫時緩解心理上的苦悶,下次可能要喝更多的酒。最後,形成了酒精依賴,苦悶只是一次次緩解,而自己卻變成了不可救藥的酒鬼。(MBA智庫百科)

系統不只是上面所舉到的企業、個人,社會也是一個系統,現今社會問題之所以會那麼多,許多人們採取捨本逐末模式是其中一個很大的原因。我也會有捨本逐末的時候,但我不是酒鬼 :p

在MBA智庫百科的網頁上又看到「踢貓效應」的連結,好奇地點進去看,也是一個很值得思考反省的問題。摘錄其中2段於下:

在心理學上,“踢貓效應”是這樣說的:一父親在公司受到了老闆的批評,回到家就把沙發上跳來跳去的孩子臭罵了一頓。孩子心裡窩火,狠狠去踹身邊打滾的貓。貓逃到街上正好一輛卡車開過來,司機趕緊避讓,卻把路邊的孩子撞傷了。這就是心理學上著名的“踢貓效應”,描繪的是一種典型的壞情緒的傳染。人的不滿情緒和糟糕的心情,一般會隨著社會關係鏈條依次傳遞,由地位高的傳向地位低的,由強者傳向弱者,無處發泄的最弱小的便成了最終的犧牲品。其實,這是一種心理疾病的傳染。這就涉及到一個“風度”問題。

  古人云:克己復禮。克己,就是遇事從容,能理智控制好自己的情緒;與人為善,給周邊疲倦的心靈以慰籍與鼓勵。有位高僧在外出雲游前,把自己酷愛的種了滿院子的蘭花交與弟子,並囑咐悉心照料。誰知一天晚上弟子忘了將蘭花搬回室內,恰巧風雨大作,原本開得正艷的蘭花被打得七零八落。弟子忐忑不安等待著師傅的責罵。僧人雲游回來,得知緣由,只是淡淡說了一句:“我不是為了生氣才種蘭花的。”弟子從中得到啟發,幡然悟道。

2014年5月3日 星期六

Rivalry helps fruit flies maintain brainpower

作者把中文的標題下得很露骨,但我覺得下得很好哦。
以及,這篇文章不只適用果蠅,也適用於人類(我在說廢話,為得是接下一句話..),
而且不只適用男性,也適用於女性,我先不說為什麼,希望你也可以想想囉~ :P


好好把妹,努力求偶,確保子孫不會越來越笨?!

各位男士們小心!不努力把妹,小心子孫越來越笨~


這篇剛剛出爐在《皇家學會報告:生物科學》的研究可有趣了!為了探討求偶的競爭過程會不會透過演化而影響到男性的心智能力,瑞士洛桑大學的科學家霍利斯(Brian Hollis)和卡維基(Tadeusz Kawecki)強制配對果蠅,讓牠們一夫一妻。公果蠅因此不用費力求偶,樂得輕鬆!

沒想到,繁衍 100 代之後,出現的果蠅後代們,整個腦殘了!!(話說,這研究真是又苦又長啊,實驗中果蠅每一代花 2 天交配、3 天產卵、再加 10 天孵化,這樣 100 代大概要四年多吧。)

這些沒有經歷求偶競爭的果蠅後代,變得比正常繁衍的果蠅後代要笨很多。例如,公果蠅的求偶能力變差,分不清環境中哪隻母果蠅在受孕期。而且,牠們的學習能力也下降。

(小聲說:重點是,只有公果蠅變笨,母果蠅無差啊!)

好,那要何看出求偶能力變差呢?簡單!研究人員讓這兩種公果蠅的後代( 100 代後的孫子們)參加「求偶大賽」,看看哪一種公果蠅比較能夠獲得正常母果蠅的青睞。所謂的 「求偶大賽」,就是兩種公果蠅各派出五隻,然後分別和另外五隻正常公果蠅與五隻正常母果蠅關在一起,最後看看哪一種公果蠅能產下較多的後代!結果發現,沒有經歷求偶競爭的公果蠅孫子,被有經歷過求偶競爭的公果蠅孫子完敗(成功當爸爸的機率差了30%)。

那為什麼沒有經歷求偶競爭的公果蠅 100 代孫子,會被完敗呢?難不成,是因為母果蠅有血輪眼,可以一眼看出牠們是魯蛇,而不想與之交配?結果發現,事實並非如此,因為如果把單獨一隻母果蠅跟這種沒有經歷求偶競爭的公果蠅 100 代孫子關在一起,牠們的交配行為一切正常,母果蠅似乎不會排斥牠們。

嗯,那究竟是怎麼一回事呢?原來,這是因為這種沒有經歷求偶競爭的公果蠅孫子變笨了,笨到無法判斷出哪一隻母果蠅是處女蠅!研究人員發現,當這種笨公果蠅的 100 代孫子和一隻處女蠅以及五隻非處女蠅關在一起 20 分鐘後,找到處女蠅交配的成功率,比有經歷求偶競爭的公果蠅 100 孫子低了 26%,而且,成功找到處女蠅交配所花的時間(取中位數),則慢了 19 分鐘!

此外,這種沒有經歷求偶競爭的公果蠅 100 孫子的學習能力也下降(氣味 – 電擊關聯學習表現差),因此,說他們變笨,真的一點都不為過!

由此可知,如果一個社會中每個男性都不用努力求偶就能找到老婆,子孫可能會越來越笨喔!

從演化上來看,這項研究說明了求偶競爭對雄性心智能力的重要影響。在求偶過程中,如果不夠聰明,無法判斷女性的受孕狀況(套在人類身上,大概就是笨男無法判斷一個女生是否有男友、是否有老公,死會了還要硬追?),可能就會徒勞無功,被完敗打趴,淪為魯蛇慘遭淘汰。最後,只有聰明的求偶者得以成功繁衍後代。

轉貼自http://pansci.tw/archives/59292




Rivalry helps fruit flies maintain brainpower

Males dim mentally after generations without competitors
(轉貼自 https://www.sciencenews.org/arti ... maintain-brainpower)
Magazine issue: April 5, 2014

The demands of outmaneuvering other guys when courting may help male fruit flies stay mentally sharp.

After more than 100 generations in the lab without male competition, male fruit flies didn’t do so well in a standard test of learning, reports evolutionary biologist Brian Hollis of the University of Lausanne in Switzerland.

The male Drosophila melanogaster still courted with normal enthusiasm and success when alone with a female. But in groups, the long-sheltered males lagged when competing with another strain of males in siring young. A series of other tests suggests that the competition-free populations faltered not because of physical weakness but because they had lost some of their smarts for coping with complex mating crowds. Male competition and other forms of sexual selection may be unappreciated evolutionary forces for maintaining a species’ smarts, Hollis and Tadeusz Kawecki of Lausanne propose February 26 in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B.

The results don’t mean that “monogamy makes men dumb,” Hollis says. The fly experiments create a “caricature” of monogamy to study an evolutionary question. Real-world demands of reproducing, for humans as for many other animals, involve much more than being alone in a lab vial with one member of the opposite sex.

Pairing fruit flies with just one partner is how the researchers created their artificial world without male competition, starting in 2007. After 100 generations of such solitude males were still courting lone females as successfully as normal flies.

Fruit flies usually mate in crowds drawn to food. Virgin females may accept male advances after merely 10 or 20 minutes of courtship moves such as face-to-face stares and intense wing vibrations. A female who has already mated, however, is much harder for a male to persuade. “She’ll kick at him, or vibrate her wings in a characteristic way,” Hollis says. “There are lots of rejection behaviors. A male can spend hours.”

Other research has shown that males learn signs of rejection from their early attempts at courtship. When the Lausanne researchers mixed an inexperienced male from the noncompetition group with one virgin female and five mated ones likely to reject him, he did seem to learn a bit. After 20 minutes, these males were more likely to focus attention on the receptive females. But males from the normal polygamous population became even more likely to focus.

The researchers also tested learning ability with odor. They gave fly vials an earthquake shake during exposure to one odor but not when a different one wafted by. The noncompetition fruit flies didn’t score as well as the regular flies in learning to flee the earthquake smell.

Females of the noncompetition population, however, matched the odor-learning performance of regular females. Maybe the challenges of egg-laying or some other aspect of female reproduction had preserved their mental edge, the researchers speculate.

The results from the male flies run counter to research on vertebrates. Among bats and nonhuman primates, scientists found species investing more resources in brainpower when they faced less intense pressures of courting and competing.

“Primates are highly intelligent and very social; flies are not,” says evolutionary anthropologist Michael A. Schillaci of the University of Toronto Scarborough. He’s not sure the flies shed much light on primates, but they could help scientists understand mammals that don’t display a lot of social complexity.

2013年10月23日 星期三

10 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You Happier, Backed By Science

Happiness is so interesting, because we all have different ideas about what it is and how to get it. It's also no surprise that it's the Nr.1 value for Buffer's culture, if you see our slidedeck about it. So naturally we are obsessed with it.

I would love to be happier, as I'm sure most people would, so I thought it would be interesting to find some ways to become a happier person that are actually backed up by science. Here are ten of the best ones I found.

1. Exercise more – 7 minutes might be enough

You might have seen some talk recently about the scientific 7 minute workout mentioned in The New York Times. So if you thought exercise was something you didn't have time for, maybe you can fit it in after all.

Exercise has such a profound effect on our happiness and well-being that it's actually been proven to be an effective strategy for overcoming depression. In a study cited in Shawn Achor's book, The Happiness Advantage, three groups of patients treated their depression with either medication, exercise, or a combination of the two. The results of this study really surprised me. Although all three groups experienced similar improvements in their happiness levels to begin with, the follow up assessments proved to be radically different:

The groups were then tested six months later to assess their relapse rate. Of those who had taken the medication alone, 38 percent had slipped back into depression. Those in the combination group were doing only slightly better, with a 31 percent relapse rate. The biggest shock, though, came from the exercise group: Their relapse rate was only 9 percent!

You don't have to be depressed to gain benefit from exercise, though. It can help you to relax, increase your brain power and even improve your body image, even if you don't lose any weight.

A study in the Journal of Health Psychology found that people who exercised felt better about their bodies, even when they saw no physical changes:

Body weight, shape and body image were assessed in 16 males and 18 females before and after both 6 × 40 mins exercise and 6 × 40 mins reading. Over both conditions, body weight and shape did not change. Various aspects of body image, however, improved after exercise compared to before.

We've explored exercise in depth before, and looked at what it does to our brains, such as releasing proteins and endorphins that make us feel happier, as you can see in the image below.
Brain after sitting quietly and after 20 minute walk - 10 Simple Things You Can Do Today That Will Make You Happier, Backed By Science


中文版請下拉至文後。

2. Sleep more – you'll be less sensitive to negative emotions

We know that sleep helps our bodies to recover from the day and repair themselves, and that it helps us focus and be more productive. It turns out, it's also important for our happiness. In NutureShock, Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman explain how sleep affects our positivity: Negative stimuli get processed by the amygdala; positive or neutral memories gets processed by the hippocampus. Sleep deprivation hits the hippocampus harder than the amygdala. The result is that sleep-deprived people fail to recall pleasant memories, yet recall gloomy memories just fine. In one experiment by Walker, sleep-deprived college students tried to memorize a list of words. They could remember 81% of the words with a negative connotation, like “cancer.” But they could remember only 31% of the words with a positive or neutral connotation, like “sunshine” or “basket.” The BPS Research Digest explores another study that proves sleep affects our sensitivity to negative emotions. Using a facial recognition task over the course of a day, the researchers studied how sensitive participants were to positive and negative emotions. Those who worked through the afternoon without taking a nap became more sensitive late in the day to negative emotions like fear and anger. Using a face recognition task, here we demonstrate an amplified reactivity to anger and fear emotions across the day, without sleep. However, an intervening nap blocked and even reversed this negative emotional reactivity to anger and fear while conversely enhancing ratings of positive (happy) expressions. Of course, how well (and how long) you sleep will probably affect how you feel when you wake up, which can make a difference to your whole day. Especially this graph showing how your brain activity decreases is a great insight about how important enough sleep is for productivity and happiness: Another study tested how employees' moods when they started work in the morning affected their work day. Researchers found that employees' moods when they clocked in tended to affect how they felt the rest of the day. Early mood was linked to their perceptions of customers and to how they reacted to customers' moods. And most importantly to managers, employee mood had a clear impact on performance, including both how much work employees did and how well they did it. Sleep is another topic we've looked into before, exploring how much sleep we really need to be productive.

3. Move closer to work – a short commute is worth more than a big house

Our commute to the office can have a surprisingly powerful impact on our happiness. The fact that we tend to do this twice a day, five days a week, makes it unsurprising that its effect would build up over time and make us less and less happy. According to The Art of Manliness, having a long commute is something we often fail to realize will affect us so dramatically: … while many voluntary conditions don't affect our happiness in the long term because we acclimate to them, people never get accustomed to their daily slog to work because sometimes the traffic is awful and sometimes it's not. Or as Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert put it, “Driving in traffic is a different kind of hell every day.” We tend to try to compensate for this by having a bigger house or a better job, but these compensations just don't work: Two Swiss economists who studied the effect of commuting on happiness found that such factors could not make up for the misery created by a long commute.

4. Spend time with friends and family – don't regret it on your deathbed

Staying in touch with friends and family is one of the top five regrets of the dying. If you want more evidence that it's beneficial for you, I've found some research that proves it can make you happier right now. Social time is highly valuable when it comes to improving our happiness, even for introverts. Several studies have found that time spent with friends and family makes a big difference to how happy we feel, generally. I love the way Harvard happiness expert Daniel Gilbert explains it: We are happy when we have family, we are happy when we have friends and almost all the other things we think make us happy are actually just ways of getting more family and friends. George Vaillant is the director of a 72-year study of the lives of 268 men. In an interview in the March 2008 newsletter to the Grant Study subjects, Vaillant was asked, “What have you learned from the Grant Study men?” Vaillant's response: “That the only thing that really matters in life are your relationships to other people.” He shared insights of the study with Joshua Wolf Shenk at The Atlantic on how the men's social connections made a difference to their overall happiness: The men's relationships at age 47, he found, predicted late-life adjustment better than any other variable, except defenses. Good sibling relationships seem especially powerful: 93 percent of the men who were thriving at age 65 had been close to a brother or sister when younger. In fact, a study published in the Journal of Socio-Economics states than your relationships are worth more than $100,000: Using the British Household Panel Survey, I find that an increase in the level of social involvements is worth up to an extra £85,000 a year in terms of life satisfaction. Actual changes in income, on the other hand, buy very little happiness. I think that last line is especially fascinating: Actual changes in income, on the other hand, buy very little happiness. So we could increase our annual income by hundreds of thousands of dollars and still not be as happy as if we increased the strength of our social relationships. The Terman study, which is covered in The Longevity Project, found that relationships and how we help others were important factors in living long, happy lives: We figured that if a Terman participant sincerely felt that he or she had friends and relatives to count on when having a hard time then that person would be healthier. Those who felt very loved and cared for, we predicted, would live the longest. Surprise: our prediction was wrong… Beyond social network size, the clearest benefit of social relationships came from helping others. Those who helped their friends and neighbors, advising and caring for others, tended to live to old age.

5. Go outside – happiness is maximized at 13.9°C

In The Happiness Advantage, Shawn Achor recommends spending time in the fresh air to improve your happiness: Making time to go outside on a nice day also delivers a huge advantage; one study found that spending 20 minutes outside in good weather not only boosted positive mood, but broadened thinking and improved working memory… This is pretty good news for those of us who are worried about fitting new habits into our already-busy schedules. Twenty minutes is a short enough time to spend outside that you could fit it into your commute or even your lunch break. A UK study from the University of Sussex also found that being outdoors made people happier: Being outdoors, near the sea, on a warm, sunny weekend afternoon is the perfect spot for most. In fact, participants were found to be substantially happier outdoors in all natural environments than they were in urban environments. The American Meteorological Society published research in 2011 that found current temperature has a bigger effect on our happiness than variables like wind speed and humidity, or even the average temperature over the course of a day. It also found that happiness is maximized at 13.9°C, so keep an eye on the weather forecast before heading outside for your 20 minutes of fresh air.

6. Help others – 100 hours a year is the magical number

One of the most counterintuitive pieces of advice I found is that to make yourself feel happier, you should help others. In fact, 100 hours per year (or two hours per week) is the optimal time we should dedicate to helping others in order to enrich our lives. If we go back to Shawn Achor's book again, he says this about helping others: …when researchers interviewed more than 150 people about their recent purchases, they found that money spent on activities—such as concerts and group dinners out—brought far more pleasure than material purchases like shoes, televisions, or expensive watches. Spending money on other people, called “prosocial spending,” also boosts happiness. The Journal of Happiness Studies published a study that explored this very topic: Participants recalled a previous purchase made for either themselves or someone else and then reported their happiness. Afterward, participants chose whether to spend a monetary windfall on themselves or someone else. Participants assigned to recall a purchase made for someone else reported feeling significantly happier immediately after this recollection; most importantly, the happier participants felt, the more likely they were to choose to spend a windfall on someone else in the near future. So spending money on other people makes us happier than buying stuff for ourselves. What about spending our time on other people? A study of volunteering in Germany explored how volunteers were affected when their opportunities to help others were taken away: Shortly after the fall of the Berlin Wall but before the German reunion, the first wave of data of the GSOEP was collected in East Germany. Volunteering was still widespread. Due to the shock of the reunion, a large portion of the infrastructure of volunteering (e.g. sports clubs associated with firms) collapsed and people randomly lost their opportunities for volunteering. Based on a comparison of the change in subjective well-being of these people and of people from the control group who had no change in their volunteer status, the hypothesis is supported that volunteering is rewarding in terms of higher life satisfaction. In his book Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being, University of Pennsylvania professor Martin Seligman explains that helping others can improve our own lives: …we scientists have found that doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.

7. Practice smiling – it can alleviate pain

Smiling itself can make us feel better, but it's more effective when we back it up with positive thoughts, according to this study: A new study led by a Michigan State University business scholar suggests customer-service workers who fake smile throughout the day worsen their mood and withdraw from work, affecting productivity. But workers who smile as a result of cultivating positive thoughts – such as a tropical vacation or a child's recital – improve their mood and withdraw less. Of course it's important to practice “real smiles” where you use your eye sockets. It's very easy to spot the difference: According to PsyBlog, smiling can improve our attention and help us perform better on cognitive tasks: Smiling makes us feel good which also increases our attentional flexibility and our ability to think holistically. When this idea was tested by Johnson et al. (2010), the results showed that participants who smiled performed better on attentional tasks which required seeing the whole forest rather than just the trees. A smile is also a good way to alleviate some of the pain we feel in troubling circumstances: Smiling is one way to reduce the distress caused by an upsetting situation. Psychologists call this the facial feedback hypothesis. Even forcing a smile when we don't feel like it is enough to lift our mood slightly (this is one example of embodied cognition). One of our previous posts goes into even more detail about the science of smiling.

8. Plan a trip – but don't take one

As opposed to actually taking a holiday, it seems that planning a vacation or just a break from work can improve our happiness. A study published in the journal, Applied Research in Quality of Life showed that the highest spike in happiness came during the planning stage of a vacation as employees enjoyed the sense of anticipation: In the study, the effect of vacation anticipation boosted happiness for eight weeks. After the vacation, happiness quickly dropped back to baseline levels for most people. Shawn Achor has some info for us on this point, as well: One study found that people who just thought about watching their favorite movie actually raised their endorphin levels by 27 percent. If you can't take the time for a vacation right now, or even a night out with friends, put something on the calendar—even if it's a month or a year down the road. Then whenever you need a boost of happiness, remind yourself about it.

9. Meditate – rewire your brain for happiness

Meditation is often touted as an important habit for improving focus, clarity and attention span, as well as helping to keep you calm. It turns out it's also useful for improving your happiness: In one study, a research team from Massachusetts General Hospital looked at the brain scans of 16 people before and after they participated in an eight-week course in mindfulness meditation. The study, published in the January issue of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, concluded that after completing the course, parts of the participants' brains associated with compassion and self-awareness grew, and parts associated with stress shrank. Meditation literally clears your mind and calms you down, it's been often proven to be the single most effective way to live a happier live. I believe that this graphic explains it the best: According to Shawn Achor, meditation can actually make you happier long-term: Studies show that in the minutes right after meditating, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy. And, research even shows that regular meditation can permanently rewire the brain to raise levels of happiness. The fact that we can actually alter our brain structure through mediation is most surprising to me and somewhat reassuring that however we feel and think today isn't permanent.

10. Practice gratitude – increase both happiness and life satisfaction


This is a seemingly simple strategy, but I've personally found it to make a huge difference to my outlook. There are lots of ways to practice gratitude, from keeping a journal of things you're grateful for, sharing three good things that happen each day with a friend or your partner, and going out of your way to show gratitude when others help you. In an experiment where some participants took note of things they were grateful for each day, their moods were improved just from this simple practice: The gratitude-outlook groups exhibited heightened well-being across several, though not all, of the outcome measures across the 3 studies, relative to the comparison groups. The effect on positive affect appeared to be the most robust finding. Results suggest that a conscious focus on blessings may have emotional and interpersonal benefits. The Journal of Happiness studies published a study that used letters of gratitude to test how being grateful can affect our levels of happiness: Participants included 219 men and women who wrote three letters of gratitude over a 3 week period. Results indicated that writing letters of gratitude increased participants' happiness and life satisfaction, while decreasing depressive symptoms. Quick last fact: Getting older will make yourself happier As a final point, it's interesting to note that as we get older, particularly past middle age, we tend to grow happier naturally. There's still some debate over why this happens, but scientists have got a few ideas: Researchers, including the authors, have found that older people shown pictures of faces or situations tend to focus on and remember the happier ones more and the negative ones less. Other studies have discovered that as people age, they seek out situations that will lift their moods — for instance, pruning social circles of friends or acquaintances who might bring them down. Still other work finds that older adults learn to let go of loss and disappointment over unachieved goals, and hew their goals toward greater wellbeing. So if you thought being old would make you miserable, rest assured that it's likely you'll develop a more positive outlook than you probably have now. Read more at: http://www.social-consciousness.com/2013/10/ten-simple-things-you-can-do-today-that-will-make-you-happier-backed-by-science.html Follow us on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/SocialConsciousness


工作煩悶、感情不順?試試這 10 件能讓你更快樂的事情

我想要更快樂,該怎麼做?
此乃大哉問,但也是生活無時無刻須面對的問題呢!大家對於快樂都有不同的想法,也有自己獲得快樂的方式,而這篇要推薦給大家的是 10 個經科學證明,能讓人更快樂的活動,現在深呼吸一口氣,想想你最喜歡的事物、揚起嘴角微笑,然後開始往下閱讀吧。
  • 十個讓你更快樂的方法
1. 多運動 
多運動不但有助於身體健康,也對心理健康有益唷。Shawn Achor 的「The Happiness Advantage」中提到一個研究,該研究將憂鬱症患者分成 3 組,一組只服用藥物,一組除了服藥之外另進行運動訓練,最後一組則只運動,不服用藥物。
剛開始時,三組病患恢復的程度相差不遠,但後續發展的結果則大為不同。後續的結果是這樣的:六個月後,僅服用藥物者憂鬱症復發率是 38%,服藥兼運動者為 31%,而僅靠運動治療者之復發率降低到僅 9%,運動對於情緒的影響程度可見一斑。
另外,運動也能讓你放鬆心情、頭腦靈活並對自己的身材更有信心。
根據 Journal of Health Psychology 中的研究指出,在我們運動之後,即使體重腰圍等等並沒有改變,我們還是會更喜歡自己的身體、更有信心。不過,這是不是代表我們慢跑完後感覺自己腰部緊實時,一切只是假象!
千萬別這麼想,如果我們運動完會自我感覺良好,那我們就會多運動,而運動久了,有一天身材就會真的變好、美夢成真了。
運動的好處很多呢,快穿上你的運動服裝,去痛快地流汗吧。
2. 多睡覺
大家都知道睡眠能修復人體,讓我們再度充滿能量,迎接挑戰;而充足的睡眠更能提升我們的專注力及生產力。想當然爾,睡得好也能讓我們更快樂。
《 NutureShock 》 這本書提到,睡眠能幫助我們正向思,大腦會以不同部位處理不同類型回憶,我們睡眠不足時,處理快樂及中性回憶的部分受到的影響比較大。
於是,睡不飽時,我們容易想起不開心的事情,英國心理協會研究文摘(The BPS Research Digest)中就有一研究證明,睡眠會影響我們的情緒。研究者以臉部辨識來研究受試者感知正面及負面情緒的狀況,研究中沒有睡午覺的受試者,在下午之後比較容易產生恐懼及憤怒等等負面情緒。
而午間小睡片刻的受試者,則產生較多正面開心的情緒,所以在公司或學校午休時,別顧著玩手機遊戲或是通訊軟體,小憩一下才能笑容滿面唷。
而睡眠的品質當然也很重要,睡眠品質可能影響到你起床時的心情,進而影響到你整天的情緒,茲事體大阿,各位讀者絕對要重視睡眠,多花點時間想想怎樣提升自己的睡眠質量唷。
3. 縮短通勤距離
每次上下班通勤時,捷運上總是人擠人、馬路上總是塞車、心裡滿是埋怨,對吧?根據 The Art of Manliness,我們常常忽略通勤距離遠時,對我們情緒造成的負面影響。
其實 The Art of Manliness的說法並不令人意外,對很多上班族來說,通勤這檔事,每週至少要經歷10次(一週 5 個工作日、每天來回上下班),諸多怨氣累積起來,心情怎麼會美麗呢?
很多人選擇買大房子以補償通勤距離造成的困擾,也有人告訴自己說,這份工作很不錯,所以值得自己舟車勞頓;然而,兩位瑞士經濟學家指出,無論是大房子或理想工作都不能有效抵銷通勤帶來的心理負擔。
4. 多花時間陪伴家人、朋友
想要快樂幸福,就一定要多花時間陪伴親愛的家人與朋友;許多人辭世前,常常後悔自己沒有多待在家人與朋友身邊,但卻為時已晚,足見家人與朋友在我們心中的重要性,千萬別忽略囉。
社交時間長短對於快樂的程度影響很大,即使內向者亦然,而哈佛大學的心理學家 Daniel Gilbert 也曾解釋道: 「當我們擁有家人與朋友時,我們便感到高興」。
The British Household Panel Survey 中指出,以生活滿足度來看,提升社交參與度時帶來的滿足感等同於一年多賺 85,000 英鎊(《TO》編按:約 400 萬台幣),而實質的收入改變則買不到多少幸福感受。
若我們真心追求快樂幸福,那我們一定要隨時提醒自己,人際關係對我們來說最為重要,不要誤以為財富才是快樂人生的關鍵。
5. 多到戶外走走
有研究指出,只要在天氣好時待在戶外 20 分鐘,就可以提振心情、開拓思維、並增強工作記憶(working memory) 。空出 20 分鐘絕非難事,例如在通勤時提早下車,走個 20 分鐘到上班或上課地點;或是在午休時間到附近的公園走走,都能讓自己開心不少。
而 American Meteorological Society 也發現,當下的溫度對於我們的快樂感受影響頗大,勝過風速、濕氣及當天平均溫度等等其他天氣因素,而最令人感到舒服快樂的溫度則為攝氏 13.9度,記得收聽氣象報告,然後在天氣好時出門踏踏青唷。
6. 多幫助他人
大家想必都聽過「施比受更有福」,那大家是否知道「施比受更快活」呢?有研究指出,一週花兩個小時幫助他人,生活就會更豐富而踏實,心情更愉悅。
The Journal of Happiness Studies 中一項研究指出,一樣是花錢購物,買給他人所得到快樂感受比買給自己時來的強烈許多;而花時間做志工也有類似的效果。
德國一項志工相關的研究指出,在東西德統一之際,由於變化劇烈及種種因素,當時許多人失去做志工服務的機會,而此研究調查後發現,這些人在失去志工機會之後,生活滿意度減少許多。
由此可見,當你出錢或出力幫助別人時,你也會得到暖暖的好心情作為回饋。
7. 多微笑
笑一個,好心情就報到!心理學家指出,這是因為我們微笑時能藉由臉部回饋帶來好心情。不過要注意唷,皮笑肉不笑的話,效果會大打折扣呢。
一項 Michigan State University 的研究調查服務業的員工,他們在工作時需要面帶微笑來面對客人,整天假笑的服務生,臉都僵了、心情也變差、甚至對工作感到厭煩,進而影響到工作表現。
但如果微笑時由心出發,想像自己在熱帶島嶼度假、或是在觀賞孩子的演奏會等等,他們就能真心微笑,並改善情緒。以下這張圖讓各位參考,其實微笑時是否發自內心,他人一目瞭然阿。

另外,當我們遇到挫折時,微笑也能給自己勇氣去面對困難,微笑還能減輕壓力、增強大腦認知能力,像是提升注意力、讓我們見樹又見林等等。
8. 規劃旅行
工作壓力大時,總是很想出走旅行,為自己充電。很有趣的是呢,Applied Research in Quality of Life 中一項研究顯示,旅行本身雖然令人愉悅,但出發前規劃旅行時才是最開心的階段;該研究顯示,期待假期或旅行時所帶來的歡愉感受可以持續八周左右,但假期結束後,旅行所帶來的快樂情緒很快就會消散。
為什麼呢? 這是因為「期待」所帶來的正面情緒非常強烈,甚至比「實踐」來的美妙,所以,各位讀者可以巧妙運用這點,比如說,現階段生活太緊湊,抽不出時間玩樂,卻又覺得壓力太大嗎?
沒關係,不需要急著請假出去玩,你可以計畫幾個月後出國度假,然後開始不時查旅館、景點、美食等等,讓自己處在期待的氛圍裡,想必心中將是艷陽天。
9. 多冥想
你有冥想的習慣嗎?如果有,恭喜你,冥想是追求快樂的好方法唷,是很健康的生活習慣。
Shawn Achor 指出,冥想可以長期增進正面情緒,讓我們更快樂,研究指出,在冥想後幾分鐘內,我們會感到平靜與滿足,如果我們持續進行冥想,還可以重整我們的大腦,長期提高幸福感受。
冥想可以幫助我們清除雜念,讓我們心境趨於平靜,並且提高專注力等等,此外,許多研究已佐證,多冥想可以讓我們更快樂且平靜,以下這張圖為冥想前後的大腦狀況。
記得每天空出一點時間來冥想,藉以調整你的大腦喔。
10. 心懷感恩
一項相關實驗中,受試者每天都要記錄下感恩的人事物,實驗發現,他們的生活滿意度增加不少,心情愉悅許多。
原來這是因為他們在紀錄時,必須以感恩的心看待週遭事物,藉此發現自己的生活是那麼美好與幸福,可見如果我們刻意觀察生活中值得感激的人事物,情緒也會受到正面影響。
那要如何變得知足感恩呢? 我們可以每天睡前寫一篇感恩日記,寫下感謝的人事物;也可以每天跟家人朋友分享感動,告訴他們當天發生在自己身上的好事。
更直接的方法,則是向幫助你的人答謝,寫封感謝簡訊、當面道謝或是請他吃美食都是不錯的方法。稍稍改變觀點,用一顆感恩的心,享受有溫度的人生吧。
  • 快樂與年齡成正比
你知道嗎? 人類天生就是快樂的料。
因為隨著年紀變老,我們自然會變得更快樂,且此現象在中年之後更為顯著。有一項研究請受試者觀看幾組不同的圖片或情境,它們各自帶有不同的情緒與氣氛,之後再請受試者回想自己看到那些圖片與情境。
結果顯示,年紀大的受試者記住的大多是開心的圖片與情境;也有研究指出,我們越老越懂得保護自己,會懂得避開不喜歡的朋友圈,也懂得淡然看待得失,學會如何放手。
想要活得更快樂嗎? 先想像一下更幸福的人生是什麼模樣,然後面帶微笑到秋高氣爽的戶外走個20分鐘、晚上跟家人聚餐、想想看要送朋友什麼生日禮物、睡前靜靜冥想、寫下感恩日記接著早早上床睡覺,就這麼簡單。明天起床時,你會變得更幸福快樂!http://techorange.com/2013/10/23/ten-simple-things-you-can-do-today-that-will-make-you-happier/